My sister was a Jehovah
Witness until she died in 1998. She was diabetic and needed triple by-pass surgery
due to diabetes complications. There were no doctors locally who would perform the
surgery since she refused blood, which makes this operation even more risky.
Someone in her congregation (perhaps an elder) found a doctor 3-1/2 hours away who
would perform bloodless surgery. Time was crucial and she was in a weakened state
already. She went through the surgery with minimal loss of blood, however the
following day she had cardiogenic shock and lapsed into a coma and died shortly
firmly believe if she had a transfusion to boost her system she would have pulled
through without the complications she experienced.
Research by doctors M. Punjala, Dr. K. Shevde (New York City...Dec. 1st,
1999) reported that there was a significant difference of blood volumes in men and
women undergoing cardiac surgery on both an absolute and relative basis. Women had
significantly lower blood volumes than men even if they are the same height and
If one of the elders of the J.W. congregation had to witness a loved one
dying right before their eyes (like we witnessed) as a possible result of NOT
having a blood transfusion then perhaps they would open their eyes and see what
traumatic effect this has on the families of one of their members. To stand there
holding your loved ones hand, knowing your helpless in changing their religious
decisions, and watching your loved one fade into death, is the most difficult and
traumatic event any one can experience. There is one reason the J.W.'s 'rule'
won't change on blood transfusions...it would mean countless members of the
congregation died needlessly and those who had been there long enough to know
their long standing policies would exit...their would be a mass exodus!!
I don't think I'll ever get over what TURMOIL the J.W. BELIEFS HAVE CAUSED
MY FAMILY...AND ESPECIALLY THE ISOLATION MY SISTER HAD FROM US. We didn't isolate
her...her beliefs kept her from a relationship with her family for many, many
At her memorial service in the congregation where she attended...there was
not one J.W. to speak PERSONALLY to any non-witness family member. They spoke OF
the family in the sermon but NOT TO the family. There is one exception...the
pastor spoke to one of my sisters who is a FORMER witness (she was a witness for
less than a year and this was well over 20 years ago) and he asked her if she
would come visit. She told him she'd never be back. When I left the Kingdom Hall
after her memorial service I 'dusted off my feet and wiped my hands' as I exited
To add insult to injury...not one elder came to see my sister WHEN she had
surgery before she died. Of all the Kingdom Halls in the state...not one elder was
there at the hospital to pray beside her husband during or after her surgery.
The ironic part of this entire situation is...When my sister (former
witness) and I were on our way to be there during my other sisters operation, the
sister in the hospital asked her husband where we were and he told her we were on
our way. She asked for her family...not for a Jehovah Witness or an elder of the
After her death I wrote the pastor of the congregation a lengthy
letter and questioned him on several matters. One of the things I stated
was..."She may have been baptised a Jehovah Witness, but blood is thicker
than water and she knew in the end where True family love is because she called
out for US and Not the witnesses".
I was nearly caught up in her religion many years ago, however I
investigated on my own and realized their in-correct teachings. Here is the
problem...people get entangled in these type of organizations because they are
bombarded with that particular sects material. Within their material are
references as to where they obtain their information. Many assume that because of
these references it must be correct information and won't follow up or seek
'outside' information such as a Christian bookstore.
Even though I never grew up in a church, I was curious enough to
research until I FOUND OUT THE TRUTH...not their (J.W.'s) truth, but what the
Bible really had to say.
Those who are vulnerable in being caught up in any teaching are:
(1) Those having very little knowledge of the Bible.
(2) Those who are dis-satisified with their own church and
(3) Those who are going through a crisis...divorce, death,
(4) Young and in-experienced people
I'm sure there are many who can relate to these 4 'warning signs' of
vulnerability...be aware, research on your own, not everything should be taken at
face value. Jesus is the answer...not religion.
I truly hope what I've written will enable others to see the
injustice brought upon followers of some religious sects which require stiff
regulations and to disobey them results in dis-fellowshipping them from their
organization. It tears apart families, friends, and in the end it can be too late